It's not my job to make you happy.

Those are fighting words in my house!

Those are fighting words in my house!

Will Smith has a video circulating, on how it’s not his job to make Jada happy or anyone for that matter. As I was listening to his wise words it reminded me of how often I say this to my own children.

They’ll be unhappy about something, likely me buying the wrong brand of potato waffles, really ffs! They’ll kick off. And, I often find myself saying “It’s not my job to make you happy. Happiness is an inside job.”

How we are is totally up to us. It is not anyone else’s responsibility. I know that can be a hard bullet to take. The notion that I’ll be happy when such and such does/says (fill in the blank) is rampant.

The reality is that you’ll be happy when YOU do/say (fill in the blank).

What does this have to do with embodiment? Well, embodiment is how we are. You have the power and the control to be how you want to be.

The fastest way to be how you want to be is through the body (embodiment). It is a much harder slog trying to be how you want to by changing the mind(set). Literally getting into your body will change your mind.

So back to the original premise, it’s not anyone else’s job to make you happy. You can choose happiness.

A simple EYP form is ‘fuck yes’ or 'enthusiasm' posture. Try it and let me know if it changes your happiness level.

Yours in Embodied Badassery.

Fuck Yes! Mouth should be open and have an orgasmic quality to it.

Fuck Yes! Mouth should be open and have an orgasmic quality to it.

So enthusiastic you're literally lifting off the ground.

So enthusiastic you're literally lifting off the ground.